Check-in and check-out processes are not just frivolous time wasters in our meetings. If they feel that way, something is probably missing.
Wicked questions help shape powerful processes. The shaping of questions in a thoughtful, purposeful and intentional manner increases the likelihood of them being powerful. This is the second post on powerful questions, the first one contained general thoughts about shaping powerful questions. This post focuses on check-in and check-out – processes, so fundamental to the work we engage in and setting context for what we do.
The greater clarity we have about the purpose and intention of the overall work and the process we are choosing to use, the greater the likelihood of crafting a question that does exactly the work we intend it to do. Check-in and check-out processes are used very intentionally and in all kinds of settings.
People who come to an Art of Hosting training are often introduced to check-in and check-out for the first time. There are many forms of check-in and check-out. If we’ve done our work well, these processes will have been experienced in a variety of ways – through the use of words, body, music and using varying lengths of time from a couple of hours or more to a 10-15 minute process.
Many people leave a training seeing the possibility of bringing a check-in process to their team or meetings but wondering exactly how to do that well. Using the same question all the time eventually wears out its appeal so it becomes important to hold attention and keep things meaningful and relevant to bring new questions at least periodically. It keeps things fresh. Which brings it all back to purpose and intention.
The Use of Check-In in Trainings
In an Art of Hosting training, we use a check-in process as we arrive and settle in together. Usually this is planned as a longer process, wanting to dive deep together as we set the context and container for the whole three or four days we are gathered. We intend to begin well as we arrive, meet each other and understand individual and collective intention for this training.
Not only do we use good questions for this initial check-in, many of us also engage in the fundamentals of good circle practice so we set our container well and with depth. A little teach on circle, the use and power of a talking piece and the agreements of circle set the stage well for the work we want to do with each other. Our greatest and best resources on good circle practice come from our friends Christina Baldwin and Ann Linnea at Peer Spirit. When we do this well, it is common for unexpected and beautiful things to arrive in our centre from the hearts, minds and souls of participants.
Often times check-ins on other mornings are simply to bring us into the space together. Sometimes we don’t even use words but invite a physical movement or embodiment check-in. Sometimes it is music. It is whatever fits well with the overall theme and flow of the day and brings us fully into the space.
Check-ins also do not need to be done with the full circle. Sometimes we use dyad or triad interviews or conversations to allow the time for people to go deeper in small groups. Sometimes we might invite people into a walk with each other.
The Use of Check-Out in Trainings
Just like we use check-in to bring people into the space, we use check-out to bring some closure or convergence to a day or a multi-day process. Doing a check-out doesn’t necessarily mean bringing everything to a nice tidy close but it could. Check-out provides an opportunity for good reflection. Where are we at, individually and collectively? What is alive and present in the room? Is there anything in particular we need to be paying attention to as we revisit our design for what’s next? What is resonating for people? Are we in a groan zone? Are we eager and excited for what’s next? Was there cool learning that took place that we want to provide people the opportunity to reflect on more deeply?
In a check-out we may want to presume in a certain direction, plant a seed – “What is shifting for you as a result of your experiences in this day?” “What spark are you carrying forward?” Or we may want to take a little pulse – “What’s alive for you now?” “What one thing has your attention?”
And, like the check-in process, sometimes we are not wanting to use words. Sometimes we use dance, embodiment, other physical movement, a series of claps or other imaginative ways to close our conversation or our day.
A good thing to remember, please don’t confuse depth with length of time of a process. I’ve been part of many processes where there was not a lot of time available, but depth was achieved because of the care that went into thinking about purpose and intention and crafting a wicked question to guide the process.
What About the “Real World”?
This is one of my favourite questions – how to practically apply what’s been learned about check-in and check-out to “real world” situations, like my two hour staff meeting, my three hour partners meeting, my team that only wants to get right down to business, with a group of high powered individuals, senior leadership in an organization or in government? Especially for folx who say, “that dance check-out was really nice but I could never do that with my group.” And, of course, you wouldn’t want to go back to your organization and use some of those things that seem a bit too out on the edge. But when you first try to use these processes, sometimes the very notion of a check-in or a talking piece is “out on the edge”.
Look for openings and invitations and step into practice in the places where greatest opportunities exist to try even some little new thing. Sometimes bringing a check-in and check-out process to your meetings or your team is the simplest way to begin to practice on an ongoing basis and it can be done without great fanfare.
The Use of Check-In in Ongoing Practice
It can be a relatively simple thing to begin a check-in process with your team. “We spend a lot of time in meetings. It would be great if we all felt these meetings were a relevant and meaningful use of our time and I’m not sure we all feel that way right now. I would love to hear us each speak to this question: If we used our meetings really well, what would it look like and what is the difference it would make to us as a team and our work?”
“The purpose of our meeting is…. Before we dive into the agenda, it would be great to hear a bit of what you are observing in your world that relates to our topic this morning.” Or, pay attention to what is the best question that can refocus your team or your meeting on what is important and link people’s passion or interest with the topic at hand. It is amazing how a few minutes doing that can shift the entire feel of a meeting as people pay more attention.
Work the question you want to start with. Will it generate the kind of thoughtfulness you are hoping for? If not, how can it be nuanced – or sometimes completely thrown out in favour of a better question – to do the work you intend it to do?
How much time do you have for your check-in? With a long time frame of meeting – a day or more, you have more time to begin well. With a shorter meeting – as little as an hour or two – you can still begin well, just be conscious of the nature of the question you are asking. The better you begin, the better the quality of the meeting, usually with better results in a shorter time frame.
The Use of Check-Out in Ongoing Practice
Short and sweet often works for check-outs, particularly when you are in a short meeting. Once you get used to using check-in and check-out, meetings somehow don’t feel complete until you do a short round of check out. Simple questions targeted at what you are looking for at the end of the meeting. Curious about what is sitting with people now? Ask. Curious about what people are taking away? Ask. Curiosus about what is percolating? Ask. Noticing that things or people feel a bit unsettled. Invite. Not everything needs to be wrapped up with a nice tidy bow. If you invite the rumblings that you sense, thank people for sharing. “Thank you. Good to know where we all are. And not unexpected, given what we discussed/where we are in our process. Thanks for sharing. It is appreciated and important.”
Bringing in a Talking Piece
While I’m sure there could be an entire post on using a talking piece, there are some simple ways to bring one into your meeting. For groups that are not familiar with this process and for whom it doesn’t feel quite right to do the full blown teach just yet, I will often say something like, “I want to hear from everyone in the room and to do that offer out this item (something I have with me, something in the room, something symbolic for the group, sometimes a bracelet I take off my arm, a pen in my hand, whatever is readily available) as a little talking piece. This is just so we make sure we hear everyone’s voice. The beauty of it is that when we have it, it is our turn to talk. When we pause, it is truly a pause and not an invitation for someone else to jump in. It means we can think about whether we are truly finished or if we have a bit more to say. When we don’t have the talking piece, that is our invitation to listen and listen well. Because you know when you get the talking piece you can take a minute to think about what you want to say. I find it changes the quality of the listening and changing the quality of the listening changes the quality of the conversation.”
I know from my own experience, that when the talking piece is not used often their are people who choose to stay quiet even when you invite all voices and then it is harder to re-invite their voice. And it is amazing at how appreciative people become around using a talking piece.
Yes we can, and do, use check-in, check-out and virtual talking pieces in our conference calls. And, yes, it works well there too – shifting attention and quality of our experience.
The main points are the same across these different categories: purpose and intention, a question related to purpose and intention that you’ve worked a bit to make it wicked and powerful because you’ve sat with it to sense into whether it will do the work you want it to do.
Where are your openings and invitations? The more you find them and accept them, the more you will find yourself in a practice that no longer feels risky but now feels fundamental for powerful process. The more the shape of your world will have shifted and before long you may find yourself not just an experimenter but a practitioner.