I am becoming more and more serious about play – as an attitude as much or more than as an activity. These days I’m reflecting a lot on the Law of Attraction, abundance, energy, flow and what blocks flow. I have been soaking up Abraham-Hicks and their teachings on the Law of Attraction.
Things like worry, stress, fear, negativity, seriousness of character all get in the way of attracting what you want in your life – anything that constricts the essence of who you are slows down the manifestation of what you want. Anything that gives relief – laughter, joy, love, delight, hope, fun, playfulness – all fuel a vibration that attracts to you what you want to manifest, contributing to expansiveness.
There was a time, a long time ago, that I used to have fun and be fun to be around. Wherever I was, there inevitably was laughter. And somehow, when I was distracted by the seriousness of life, running a business, being in relationship, raising children, my natural joie d’vivre slipped away until all that was left was this grave seriousness, worry, fear and strain. My world and my energy became more and more constricted and flow was blocked off.
One day, I noticed. I looked up and looked around and I noticed I was all seriousness, intensity and negativity and lacked any sense of joyfulness or play in my life. Couldn’t even really remember the last time I had laughed out loud or had any sense of fun. How had that happened? Little bit by little bit the shape of my life had unintentionally and, in some ways, unwillingly, shifted. I was deep in my own shadow.
That day, that observance, marked the beginning of a long road back to joy. I was blown away by habitual patterns, belief systems that locked me into seriousness and the impact of the voice of my inner judge. I learned about the voracity of my inner judge by working through the book Soul Without Shame, learning how to identify and disempower it. While it still shows up, it has less impact for much less time. I have learned about understanding my emotions as a guide to my experience and as an inner guidance system.
Over the last few years I have been picking away at of the things that have constricted my energy and constricted flow in my life. I have been opening up to a greater sense of expansiveness and to taking risks and this has been accelerating.
And, I have been learning about play and playfulness. When I’m leading workshops, playfulness hasn’t been my strong suit. I rely on other team members to bring that element. I bring depth and intensity of connection to group process and I do it well. What is being reawakened in me is the idea that play doesn’t have to be an action, it is an attitude that opens up or shifts energy in individuals and in groups and particularly in me. I have been observing how it galvanizes attention and curiosity in the best possible ways even in a room full of strangers.
I have witnessed the impact of play as an attitude in social settings, at home and in the work I do. It is infusing the relationships I have, and even chance encounters. Play as an attitude brings with it a greater capacity to risk putting myself out there more, risk being wrong, risk trying things that might not work, risk showcasing the imperfection of being human. It means the willingness to try without needing specific results to show up as proof of success. Everything then becomes a learning situation which, oddly enough, then contributes to breeding success – and in beautifully fun ways rather than with a seriousness that brings everything down.
Play as an attitude encompasses joy, delight and expansiveness. It opens up channels for Law of Attraction to work in favourable ways, bringing wanted things into being.
Now, I smile more even when I’m alone. I’m enjoying the expansiveness in my own vibrational frequency. I am more energetic, eager and focused. All because I am understanding play as an attitude. I can still be really serious about my work, the integrity of all my relationships and the responsibilities I hold. But when I infuse them with an attitude of play I bring alive two of my favourite rules – Rule 6a and 6b:
6a: Don’t take yourself so f—–g seriously!
6b: Don’t take other people so f—–g seriously!
These are two rules I have had to be reminded of often for a long time and now they are becoming integrated into my being along with the delightful attitude of play. What things can you bring an attitude of play to that would enable you to shift the shape of your experience?
Like the distinction between play as an activity and play as an attitude, Kathy! We can appreciate play and create space for it even when not actively engaged in an activity if play is part of our attitude. I think it fundamentally changes how we see things and how we are.
It does for me Mike. The biggest difference I notice is a sense of greater expansiveness and openness and flow — and just feeling better, lighter and more fun!
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